Sex=Success, huh? I’m glad you explained yourself with the second and third posts on the subject. I was nearly about to strangle you because of the first. As I read them I imagined you with a funky ponytail on the verge of exclaiming, “TAME THE CUNT”. Hehe, thankfully you made sense of your point in the end and it really wasn’t too far off base.
I feel the same in that I think the ultimate human goal is to replicate yourself. Obviously, sex is the way to do it. But you totally neglected the process it takes to find a suitable partner for raising a child. You focus on the act and what it yields but what about the search to find someone worth having children with? Even animals that function on base instincts still are somewhat discriminatory. It is most often based on “looks” or strength and ability to provide (birds – plumage; wildcats – physique/success on kills; penguins – “heartsongs”; rinse, repeat regarding, at least, the kingdom of Animalia.)
Do you not consider finding a compatible mate worthy of extrapolation? Or did it not cross your mind? Or is it irrelevant to your point?
I think it’s fairly important if sex is really a success. Any man can blow his seminal fluid into a sodden, sweltry sleeve, but, I believe, it is important for the sentient individuals to separate themselves from the base humans in how they go about procreating.
Adolescents with little self-control and overcome by hormones, will engage in coitus and, unfortunately(because of poor sexual education and lack of accessibility to contraceptives), will achieve the ‘success’ you speak of too soon. It’s either that or abortion. I found your abortion view quite interesting. Nearly compelling, but I still want to remain open to it when I consider exactly who the morons getting pregnant when theyre still in high school are!
This seems like a really complicated subject I’m not sure I can really ponder over and discuss in the short amount of time before anthropology class. I definitely want to steer away from abortion and pregnancy in adolescence. I’ll just hope that that sort of problem isn’t perpetuated by the children of those that made such mistakes in their youth(though I have seen the patterns).
I feel rather fortunate I am the spawn of parents that made very calculated decisions regarding sex and pregnancy(‘least mah mum). If I were to follow in her footsteps, I’d have just over 2 years to find a father to my future children. That means time to finish my degree AND get a job just before going on maternity leave! bahaha(THANKS FOR BEING RESPONSIBLE, MOM)
Back on course. I’d like to differentiate between our kind(I’ve placed you in my group because I know the outcomes of certain events in your past weren’t always in your control[how dare a woman think just because the lifeform is dwelling within her body it’s HER choice alone!]) and the kind that goes out getting pregnant/impregnating before important rites of passage on the way to adulthood. So, spawning is the success, but how to go about it? This is where I find arranged marriage to be smart thinking. Sure, the persons that are being married may not like the idea of not having much/if any say on who they are marrying, but it’s because it is understood by the culture that children don’t really know what’s best for themselves regarding marriage and childbearing. Elders, on the otherhand, do know. They’ve had years of experience. They take many things into consideration and see a situation with a clarity that two kids in love can’t.
You consider sex to = success, but I think finding a suitable partner to have children with the success. I don’t recall you mentioning adoption, tsk-tsk. Adoption isn’t as fulfilling, though, now is it? We have an innate desire to replicate ourselves; yes, I agree–if we don’t replicate, we have failed. But do we not fail if we replicate and the child grows up with an absent mother or father? Is it really success to bring a life into the world and leave it to spend the first 18 years of life in foster homes? Is it success to bring a child into the world and have it endure sexual/physical abuse by a mother or father? Is it success to see your mother procreating with different men and never actually knowing your own father? Or is success merely giving birth to a human that can eventually fend for him/herself and raise a family of his/her own?
I suppose I am convinced that the mere act of conceiving and having a child that reaches adulthood is success, at whatever cost. But my focus would be more on the stable environment the child is developed in. I have willingly spent a lot of time observing others “live life” because I know that the knowledge I take from their mistakes will aid in my not repeating them. I have watched friends contract sexually transmitted viruses/diseases, have children out of and in wedlock, have abortions, divorce, win/lose custody, etc(I suppose I always have been a bit of an ethnographer). These things have been physically/emotionally exhausting for all parties. The last thing I want is to be that sort of statistic. I want to raise children that can admire me for the decisions I made. That I can proudly say I’d like to have follow in my vigilant footsteps.
This is my time to gather information and conduct research so that I can say my most important contribution, my final thesis, my magnum opus(hehe, this is too much fun) was composed with my absolute best and most educated efforts. I am taking the good decisions my parents made and building upon that to create a better foundation for my future children.
I don’t need to have sex with strangers or people I barely know or am barely attracted to to be successful. I am not slighting those who have taken part in such behavior, though. My original reasons for it have to do with my upbringing. I am abstinent now though because I am too educated to partake in acts that are only excusable for those who haven’t had the pleasure of being enlightened.
I feel I was enlightened at a rather young age, and although sometimes I wish I could participate in the acts the world at large take part in carelessly, I will take comfort in not having to deal with the not-so-fun consequences of such behavior.
I will attempt to go into what ‘suitable mates’ are in another installment ;-]